marriage and kids and age and work and life
It's Saturday. I feel like I'm saying that a lot lately, not Saturday, but is it already Saturday? I guess I'll keep saying that. This week, October started which is by far one of my favorite months. It just has a feel to it.
My sister turned 30 this week! I'm not totally sure how she feels about, I didn't hear any excitement and maybe a statement along the lines of being 35 in five years. I love getting older. While responsibilities do get harder, it seems like other things get a lot easier. Who would want to live in high school forever? High school was like a never ending episode of Dawson's Creek.
Love you sister! Happy Birthday!
We watched the debate on Thursday with a small group of local Democrats. I'm still shocked that people find it okay to talk so unprofessionally when giving a debate. Dang, darnit, golly wally, doggonit, what? And to be so close to an important position. I've been hearing lately that the appeal to Sarah Palin is her ability to be like "everyone else". I find that unacceptable. When it comes to most things in the world, I am in idiot. I could not perform my own surgeries, or fight my own court cases or even build my own house. So why is it that some American's are looking for someone like them to lead the country? I want someone not at all like me. I am lazy, I take shortcuts, I left college with only a year left to finish, I didn't know what the Bush Doctrine was either until I looked it up. Some of my magazine subscriptions are: martha stewart living, better homes and gardens, lucky and domino. Guess what? Not qualified to be Vice President. Can we please raise the bar again for Presidency and Vice Presidency?
Another thing I'm not understand lately is pushing newlyweds to have children. After we get married, I'm charging everyone a dollar who asks when we plan to have kids. The funny difference about living in NYC and living in most other places is the perception of age. In New York we are young whipper snappers still figuring out life and who we are. Most people do not start settling down (not sure what that means yet) until they are in their late 30's and early 40's. Which I know is not prime child-time for most women. But here, and where I come from it seems foreign to be the age we are 25 and 31 and not even close to child rearing. Whats wrong with enjoying your marriage first?
I can't help but to feel that waiting a few years to have children is a good decision all around. First, having children puts stress on a marriage and changes your relationship. Why not figure out married life and enjoy your time together first? Second, I think its a good idea to get past the first couple of years of marriage before bringing a child into the picture. Am I totally out in left field with this one?
My sister turned 30 this week! I'm not totally sure how she feels about, I didn't hear any excitement and maybe a statement along the lines of being 35 in five years. I love getting older. While responsibilities do get harder, it seems like other things get a lot easier. Who would want to live in high school forever? High school was like a never ending episode of Dawson's Creek.
Love you sister! Happy Birthday!
We watched the debate on Thursday with a small group of local Democrats. I'm still shocked that people find it okay to talk so unprofessionally when giving a debate. Dang, darnit, golly wally, doggonit, what? And to be so close to an important position. I've been hearing lately that the appeal to Sarah Palin is her ability to be like "everyone else". I find that unacceptable. When it comes to most things in the world, I am in idiot. I could not perform my own surgeries, or fight my own court cases or even build my own house. So why is it that some American's are looking for someone like them to lead the country? I want someone not at all like me. I am lazy, I take shortcuts, I left college with only a year left to finish, I didn't know what the Bush Doctrine was either until I looked it up. Some of my magazine subscriptions are: martha stewart living, better homes and gardens, lucky and domino. Guess what? Not qualified to be Vice President. Can we please raise the bar again for Presidency and Vice Presidency?
Another thing I'm not understand lately is pushing newlyweds to have children. After we get married, I'm charging everyone a dollar who asks when we plan to have kids. The funny difference about living in NYC and living in most other places is the perception of age. In New York we are young whipper snappers still figuring out life and who we are. Most people do not start settling down (not sure what that means yet) until they are in their late 30's and early 40's. Which I know is not prime child-time for most women. But here, and where I come from it seems foreign to be the age we are 25 and 31 and not even close to child rearing. Whats wrong with enjoying your marriage first?
I can't help but to feel that waiting a few years to have children is a good decision all around. First, having children puts stress on a marriage and changes your relationship. Why not figure out married life and enjoy your time together first? Second, I think its a good idea to get past the first couple of years of marriage before bringing a child into the picture. Am I totally out in left field with this one?
posted by Lorrie at 8:08 AM
6 Comments:
of course its a good decision, for most people
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Lorrie where did you get to be such a Smart young woman? You are right on with Ms Palin. I want someone Smarter than me to be in the White House! I am not impressed with the folksy twang. That maybe suitable in Alaska but not in the other 49 states and certainly not in the realm of world leaders...Betcha and Maverick isn't gong to cut it.
I also think it is wise for a young married couple to have time together prior to having children. You need to become grounded before having babies. As you know your parents had your sister 14 months after they were married so most of your parents first year of marriage was getting ready for a baby and Mommy was just 21 years old. Like everything in this world that was both positive and negative. One thing for sure we had to grow up in a hurry. Though at times it was tough and there were times I would have liked not to have had the responsibility of a young'n and been able to just do what I wanted and not have to worry about child care but over all I have no complaints. I loved being a mommy and I will have to say being a mom has been my greatest pleasure. Greatest challenge at times, it's not pleasant at times when kids go through those "darn" teenage years but oh is it so worth it. My favorite time was birth through age 6 yrs. then you have to compete with what your kids pick-up from school. But then again I did enjoy watching you grow up and become adults. Sometimes it was quite painful to let go but I am really enjoying the next phase of our relationship. Now your father and I are on our own and really enjoy each other's company. We have come full circle and I must say, it probably was a good thing for us that we had kids when we did cause it forced us to overcome a lot of issues. There were plenty of times when you all were small had we not had children depending on us we would have said by-by.
Take your time having babies but remember that the Grandma's are looking forward to having a very curlie headed blue eyed baby to love and enjoy cause we know you and Josh are going to have the cutest little babies around. And we can't wait to just love them and squeeze them. You will not have to look far for babysitters. I'm sure Kamalla and I will be delighted to take turns spending time with our grandbaby! So I promise I will not say when are you going to have babies. I think you are a very wise young lady and you will need to follow your heart!
Love ya!
Mom
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omg lorrie. your mom's comment is soooooooooooo cute.
I would like my vice president to know what papers she watches, have an idea of what supreme court cases she disagrees with, and doesn't speak like a hillbilly.
And I can totally sympathize on the marriage and children and age issue. Here in Nowhere, Ohio, I am CONSTANTLY asked why I don't have children and don't I like children. I'm 36. And I just got married last year.
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